who is the big spoon/little spoon: Generally, Jessa is the big spoon, because she’ loves tucking her face right against the back of Marnie’s neck, the smell of Marnie’s shampoo all around her. But sometimes, Jessa will crawl into bed and draw Marnie’s arm across her stomach, because being held like that just makes Jessa feel grounded in a way she finds herself needing.